What aspect of Roleplaying Games has had the biggest effect on you? It's taught me that no roleplaying is better than bad roleplaying and I am at least 50% of any conflict that I am a part of.
Sadly, my early days of gaming, as a college student and young adult all the way through my mid-30's was filled with feuds and drama, where I would often focus on the group and the struggles more than the having fun part. I was socially immature and not used to a large group of people, I considered friends. I wasn't very good at the whole "social food chain" thing and there were a lot of hurt feeling on my part because many of the people I role-played with were only looking for "gaming buddies" and I didn't see that. The group changed, but my expectations didn't, until the drama got to be too much and I stepped back for 3 or 4 years. That's where I learned that I was happier with no gaming drama than gaming with drama. It's also where I did quite a bit of soul searching and realized that if I allowed my hobby to be filled with conflict, no matter what I thought, I was part of that conflict, at least 50%.
Since returning to role playing, I've had a small bit of drama, but have learned quickly to recognize it and communicate through it, which is much healthier for me and my groups.
Sadly, my early days of gaming, as a college student and young adult all the way through my mid-30's was filled with feuds and drama, where I would often focus on the group and the struggles more than the having fun part. I was socially immature and not used to a large group of people, I considered friends. I wasn't very good at the whole "social food chain" thing and there were a lot of hurt feeling on my part because many of the people I role-played with were only looking for "gaming buddies" and I didn't see that. The group changed, but my expectations didn't, until the drama got to be too much and I stepped back for 3 or 4 years. That's where I learned that I was happier with no gaming drama than gaming with drama. It's also where I did quite a bit of soul searching and realized that if I allowed my hobby to be filled with conflict, no matter what I thought, I was part of that conflict, at least 50%.
Since returning to role playing, I've had a small bit of drama, but have learned quickly to recognize it and communicate through it, which is much healthier for me and my groups.
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